Priorities

How do we get so caught up in life?  Time seems so fleeting at moments and when we take the time to stop and really think about what we are doing, I mean really reflect on what we are doing, it can either bring a smile to your face or a deep feeling of regret.

Over the past few years, I have been putting myself at the top of my priorities.  I have read so many times that we need to do that for our own health and well-being. I decided that I was important enough to be my main priority and the rest would fall into place.  I have been so busy finding myself and gaining control of my life again.  I have found out so much about myself and I have gotten stronger as a person.

What I didn't count on was the fact that I would lose focus on my other priorities.  I would say it all the time and I could write it down, but what the hell did that do?  Words are just that, words.  Yes, sometimes words are enough but when it comes to the main priorities in your life, words are not enough.

Life is about so much more.  We have our marriages, our children, our careers, our homes, etc.  There is so much to account for in our lives.  How in the world do we fit it all in and keep a smile on our faces?  It's tough.

I am guilty of not being able to balance it all. I got hit very hard with a dose of truth.  Truth that, honestly, rocked me to my core.  My priorities weren't what they should be.  At least not in action.  On paper, they were but not in my daily life.  I forgot to put others at the top of  my list.  I took for granted the things that mean so much to me. People and things that are the base of who I am.  How did that happen? I got caught up in finding myself and building myself up that I didn't make time to show others what they mean to be, or how important they are to me.  I hurt them.

I have been reading a lot of personal development books to try to come to terms with how I can better myself.  The one I am reading now is by Joel Osteen and there are so many paragraphs and passages that have spoken to me.  I have been highlighting like crazy and in the midst of all of that, I am learning.  I was reading about how if someone is with you but not for you, maybe they shouldn't be in your life.  Meaning, if they are not helping you, encouraging you, or by your side; maybe  you should cast them aside and move on.  I took that as if it were speaking to me directly.  Then it hit me like a ton of bricks.  The same meaning goes for how I am with others.  If I am with them but not for them, they should cast me aside.  I don't want to be cast aside.  I want to be there.  I want to be for them, not just with them.

I know this seems sort of vague but if you know me and you know my priorities, you may be able to guess whom I am talking about.

Today is a new day.  Today I said, "I don't just need you, I want you." Now it's time for action.  It's a terrible feeling to hurt someone you love.  It's horrible to know that you caused them pain.

When I started reading personal development books, I expected to see how I needed to change my life to be more successful, to gain perspective of how others influence me and how I can move on.  I didn't expect to see it from a different perspective to see how I influence others and how they could move on, without me.

Life is such a bitch sometimes. The many twists and turns are not for the weak. In an instant, things can change and when they do, you have to think about what is truly important. What drives you, what makes you happy, what is your priority? The answers should come easy, and when they do come easy, so should expressing them.  Be of action, not just words.

Making Some Plans...Maybe....Sort of

When Chuck and I got married 13 years ago, I was pregnant.  It wasn't a secret and it wasn't the only reason we got married.  I am willing to be that most people believe that is the case.  Yes, we did not plan the pregnancy, yes we wanted to be married before our baby was born....would we have gotten married that soon had I not been pregnant, probably not.  However, we knew that we would be together forever.  We had been together for five years at that point. We were living together and we were both working full time so it's not like we had a shotgun to our heads. I don't even know if it was something that was important to our parents, for us to get married before the baby came, but it was what was important to us.  We are old fashioned in some ways. 

We always said that we would renew our vows someday and we always tend to say we would do it for our 15 year anniversary.  We want to do the whole shebang.  We went to the local justice of the peace when we got married and had a big reception with our family and friends.  I wore a clearance rack prom dress that was perfect for me.  I loved it and I don't regret what we did but don't most girls want that big, special day with everyone they care about there to help celebrate?  Chuck wants that for me.  He wants me to be that princess for my day.  He feels it is important for us to go through the nice ceremony.

We would really love to go to Hawaii as a honeymoon after a vow renewal ceremony.  He has an uncle that lives in Hawaii so we would have an excellent tour guide or at least someone to tell us the best places to go and see. 

Since our financial woes and our situation, I'm not sure we can swing the trip to Hawaii.  I still want to go and I will do what I can to try to save up for it and we even said we'd love to have some friends or family go too! Once we are financially stable, that is where our extra money will be going...to the trip to Hawaii.  Even if we have to wait until awhile after the vow renewal ceremony, we will go...one day.

So, aside from the honeymoon trip to Hawaii, there are other things that I think about and sort of plan for our ceremony.  Like the location, who we would invite, the color scheme, the decorations, etc.  All those fun and exciting details that every bride gets to plan.  I'm sort of embarassed to say that I have been looking online at wedding gowns.  It seems sort of silly to look at them if I don't know for sure if we are going to actually do it, but I love looking at them. There are so many choices, how in the world do you know if you are getting the right one?!  Is there really that whoa moment? I think I have asked this on Twitter before. 

Here is one that I really like, it is pretty and simple but not too plain. It's not too form-fitting that I wouldn't be able to walk.

Another one that I think I like, it is different, I haven't ever seen anyone, in person, with this style dress. Again, it's not too fancy and overboard.

This one is a bit different and I am not sure if this is something that would even look good on me.  For years, I thought I would want the ball gown style but I'm not so sure anymore.  I am older and this is a vow renewal so I somehow feel like I should have a more, simple style but then again, this is my first real wedding ceremony.

How did you decide what style you wanted?  Did you change your mind once you started trying on dresses? 

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